3) "you look amazing in that bathing suit" seems like an attempt to flatter someone. I didn't know they wear bathing suits to work at Google :) It's what guys do to girls. They compliment them. And girls generally accept the flattery and say thank you. If you don't like that it's fine, just let people know and they more than likely will be happy to
Do not "flatter" people on their appearance unless they are a family member or close friend.
I agree to a point. I think the general rules of thumb would be more along the lines of, "don't flatter someone in a suggestive or inappropriate way". Some people work very hard on their appearance. I would go so far as to say it (their looks) is, to a large extent, who they are. That's not to say they are necessarily shallow people either. They find pleasure and take pride in keeping up with their looks and overall aesthetic. So if you're out and meet someone who might be a friend of a friend / co-worker, or a co-worker from another department who you may not have met before, if they look like they've gone above and beyond to look good, they more often than not will appreciate the compliments. If you don't look like you've put all that effort into your looks (which is not to say you purposefully try to look ugly) more often than not you will not receive those compliments.
You are wrong. It is not appropriate to comment on another person's appearance if that person works for you, or works with you. (Unless their appearance falls below whatever minimum standard your company has).
Women do not appreciate those comments. By making those comments you are being creepy and unacceptable.
At work yes. I was under the impression we were talking about social settings outside of work with co-workers. Since none of the scenarios from the OP appeared to have happened at work. Or at least that's the case with all the scenarios I cited in my original comment.
I don't see why compliments of one's appearance outside of work must be off limits. As long as they're not inappropriate or suggestive. It's a common courtesy in some social circles. And I'm also not against women complimenting men on their appearance, or women complimenting women or men complimenting men. I'm an equal opportunity complimenter :)
Now if they report directly to you yes I agree it's inappropriate and boundaries need to be in place. But I didn't get the impression that was the case.
And for the record I'm not talking about "cat calls". That's inappropriate in all cases.
After further reflection, in some sick perverted way, I can see how some people might interpret all forms of flattery / compliment as having some ulterior motive or inextricably linked to a man's desire to conquer or take advantage of females.
I just see compliments and flattery (if done right) as an attempt by one human to bring a little joy to another human's day by saying something nice to them. Why does it have to be more than that? Even if you're not family or close friends. If you're with a group of people and you think someone has gone above and beyond to put themselves together for the evening, I see no harm in that.
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Do not "flatter" people on their appearance unless they are a family member or close friend.
I agree to a point. I think the general rules of thumb would be more along the lines of, "don't flatter someone in a suggestive or inappropriate way". Some people work very hard on their appearance. I would go so far as to say it (their looks) is, to a large extent, who they are. That's not to say they are necessarily shallow people either. They find pleasure and take pride in keeping up with their looks and overall aesthetic. So if you're out and meet someone who might be a friend of a friend / co-worker, or a co-worker from another department who you may not have met before, if they look like they've gone above and beyond to look good, they more often than not will appreciate the compliments. If you don't look like you've put all that effort into your looks (which is not to say you purposefully try to look ugly) more often than not you will not receive those compliments.
You are wrong. It is not appropriate to comment on another person's appearance if that person works for you, or works with you. (Unless their appearance falls below whatever minimum standard your company has).
Women do not appreciate those comments. By making those comments you are being creepy and unacceptable.
At work yes. I was under the impression we were talking about social settings outside of work with co-workers. Since none of the scenarios from the OP appeared to have happened at work. Or at least that's the case with all the scenarios I cited in my original comment.
I don't see why compliments of one's appearance outside of work must be off limits. As long as they're not inappropriate or suggestive. It's a common courtesy in some social circles. And I'm also not against women complimenting men on their appearance, or women complimenting women or men complimenting men. I'm an equal opportunity complimenter :)
Now if they report directly to you yes I agree it's inappropriate and boundaries need to be in place. But I didn't get the impression that was the case.
And for the record I'm not talking about "cat calls". That's inappropriate in all cases.
After further reflection, in some sick perverted way, I can see how some people might interpret all forms of flattery / compliment as having some ulterior motive or inextricably linked to a man's desire to conquer or take advantage of females.
I just see compliments and flattery (if done right) as an attempt by one human to bring a little joy to another human's day by saying something nice to them. Why does it have to be more than that? Even if you're not family or close friends. If you're with a group of people and you think someone has gone above and beyond to put themselves together for the evening, I see no harm in that.