Hmm, if you are a harasser by trying to talk to someone... then when & where will you meet the man of your dreams? After a while, most people exhaust the dating options within their friendship circles. Many girls welcome these sorts of chances to talk with a man.

Maybe the general problem being a woman in tech is that you just have way too many men around & so through the normal course of male -> female flirting women feel overwhelmed and overburdened.

Thing is, I'd guess most techie guys are super shy.

"You look like a rockstar in that bathing suit. "

Isn't that just a compliment from a shy, probably very sweet, Indian boy?

Well it's hard to say without actually being there in that situation.