To be honest, you need to just suck it up and try it, consequences be damned. You're going to suck for a while, embrace it.
I think that's a difficulty for smart people, we're used to being good at things easily and when we aren't we avoid them. It's OK to not be good at something if you're just starting out. You will make mistakes, it's your job to learn from them and get better.
> I think that's a difficulty for smart people, we're used to being good at things easily and when we aren't we avoid them.
I think "smart people" want to avoid the "I feel dumb" stage of learning. Actually, I suspect most people do. :) When it's something that's familiar (like learning a new API or language) we can get through it with familiar tools (e.g. our brain) so it's not quite as bad.
When it's something unfamiliar (like improving conversation with people) it's a longer & more obvious stage and our usual tools don't help. (Particularly when we have our critical brain along for the ride.)
> It's OK to not be good at something if you're just starting out.
I definitely had to remind myself of that when I enrolled in an Improv Theatre course recently. :D
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To be honest, you need to just suck it up and try it, consequences be damned. You're going to suck for a while, embrace it.
I think that's a difficulty for smart people, we're used to being good at things easily and when we aren't we avoid them. It's OK to not be good at something if you're just starting out. You will make mistakes, it's your job to learn from them and get better.
> "You're going to suck for a while, embrace it."
Yeah, that's a good thing to remember.
> I think that's a difficulty for smart people, we're used to being good at things easily and when we aren't we avoid them.
I think "smart people" want to avoid the "I feel dumb" stage of learning. Actually, I suspect most people do. :) When it's something that's familiar (like learning a new API or language) we can get through it with familiar tools (e.g. our brain) so it's not quite as bad.
When it's something unfamiliar (like improving conversation with people) it's a longer & more obvious stage and our usual tools don't help. (Particularly when we have our critical brain along for the ride.)
> It's OK to not be good at something if you're just starting out.
I definitely had to remind myself of that when I enrolled in an Improv Theatre course recently. :D
Good advice.