After that email is sent, you'll then know if the managers will woo you with a salary increase to keep you, or laugh and tell you not to let the door hit your ass on the way out.
I was under the impression that taking a counter-offer is unwise as it tends to mean they fast-track finding a replacement for you, as you're clearly disgruntled enough to find/accept other work and a salary bump generally won't fix the reasons.
Yes, the boss can be suspicious about your long term prospects if the employee leaves them with the impression that the only reason to stay was the pay increase.
That's where the employee has to package the multiple reasons for staying besides the money. You can also bring in the "family" reasons if you want to.
Example:
Boss: "Yikes John, we hate to see you go. We can give you a 10% raise to stay."
employee: "Hmmm... that's interesting. Well, I've been wanting to work Mike's team on the robotics software. Can I also get more involved with that? And I need to talk it over with my wife. She's really been wanting to stay in the area to take care of her mother, so if she hears about this, she may be convincing me too. etc."
Notice that I recommend that people leave out personal family stuff in asking for a raise but it's ok to use it when accepting the counteroffer.
Bringing up the "baby needs new shoes" to ask for a raise is signaling to the boss that you're clueless about business negotiation. But paradoxically, it's ok mention the family stuff as an additional reason to accept the counteroffer because it gives the boss the warm & fuzzies that it's not purely mercenary.
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I was under the impression that taking a counter-offer is unwise as it tends to mean they fast-track finding a replacement for you, as you're clearly disgruntled enough to find/accept other work and a salary bump generally won't fix the reasons.
Yes, the boss can be suspicious about your long term prospects if the employee leaves them with the impression that the only reason to stay was the pay increase.
That's where the employee has to package the multiple reasons for staying besides the money. You can also bring in the "family" reasons if you want to.
Example:
Boss: "Yikes John, we hate to see you go. We can give you a 10% raise to stay."
employee: "Hmmm... that's interesting. Well, I've been wanting to work Mike's team on the robotics software. Can I also get more involved with that? And I need to talk it over with my wife. She's really been wanting to stay in the area to take care of her mother, so if she hears about this, she may be convincing me too. etc."
Notice that I recommend that people leave out personal family stuff in asking for a raise but it's ok to use it when accepting the counteroffer.
Bringing up the "baby needs new shoes" to ask for a raise is signaling to the boss that you're clueless about business negotiation. But paradoxically, it's ok mention the family stuff as an additional reason to accept the counteroffer because it gives the boss the warm & fuzzies that it's not purely mercenary.