I've tried a few online courses for touch typing and they all want me to place my hand in a super awkward position that just seems to be an obvious way of aquirering wrist pain.

I think the notion that touch typing is adult is fucking stupid and condescending. I glance at the keyboard while typing, but I don't search and peck. I use all fingers and type fast enough. It's not typing speed that dictates how much code I write. I fail to see what is wrong with looking at what you're doing.