I can see where you go with that 'not the most sensitive guy in the world'. I raise you with 'possibly the least sensitive guy in the world', and here's why:
1. You say she has a PhD but has not been able to find meaningful work. In other words, she's unemployed and highly educated, which can be humiliating, depressing, downright increasing one's feeling of worthlessness. Judging by your attitude, you don't get this. You really don't get how hard it might be for her right now. And you should.
2. You could use things for your up-and-coming venture, so you have talked her into being those things? Did you ask her if those things are what she really wants to do or are you just putting pressure on her to 'do her share' or, Deity forbid, 'at least do something' for you? Talk to her. Find out what she's good at. And if it's not 100% what you are wishing to pull out of that top hat... suck it up. Life's unpredictable and your viewpoint should flex with it.
3. Only a douche would stay with a significant other just for an endowment that could possibly benefit them. Read it and weep. Get real with your relationship or set her free. She deserves to be with someone who values her for who she is and what she does rather than as an emergency money bag. The latter is just pure offensive.
4. You're not supporting her. You're bringing her down. Wake up call incoming, one would genuinely hope...
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I can see where you go with that 'not the most sensitive guy in the world'. I raise you with 'possibly the least sensitive guy in the world', and here's why:
1. You say she has a PhD but has not been able to find meaningful work. In other words, she's unemployed and highly educated, which can be humiliating, depressing, downright increasing one's feeling of worthlessness. Judging by your attitude, you don't get this. You really don't get how hard it might be for her right now. And you should.
2. You could use things for your up-and-coming venture, so you have talked her into being those things? Did you ask her if those things are what she really wants to do or are you just putting pressure on her to 'do her share' or, Deity forbid, 'at least do something' for you? Talk to her. Find out what she's good at. And if it's not 100% what you are wishing to pull out of that top hat... suck it up. Life's unpredictable and your viewpoint should flex with it.
3. Only a douche would stay with a significant other just for an endowment that could possibly benefit them. Read it and weep. Get real with your relationship or set her free. She deserves to be with someone who values her for who she is and what she does rather than as an emergency money bag. The latter is just pure offensive.
4. You're not supporting her. You're bringing her down. Wake up call incoming, one would genuinely hope...