I'm only going to make one comment on this thread:
If you use this thread to make disparaging comments about Shanley, you're missing the point and you're doing it wrong. Go look at how respectfully I tried to treat Shanley when she gave me tons of crap, and then go do the same thing. Shanley's abuse does not make your abuse okay.
You made this "open letter" knowing it's a lightning rod to abuse her. Since that was a predictable outcome of your action, you share responsibility in abuse.
I resent you leading abuse against her, especially when we give you our money... to give to decent people.
I resent you piling onto her (ironically from Medium) while her account is protected due to other attacks.
I resent your "need" to do so PUBLICLY to someone who suffers threats of violence for fundamentally improving the world. Your reason: "because my resentment is my problem, and I need to express it to you".
I resent you THANKING people who call your top users (like her) "professional victims" -- yet you "resent" it when important criticism is turned onto you.
This seems entirely unfair. She publicly and viscously attacked him for not running his company (which paid her) in a way that best suited his interests.
When he responds with "You hurt my feelings when you did X" he is piling on and contributing to her abuse? Her attitude would've hurt my feelings. There seem to be no acceptable avenues through which to attempt any sort of conflict resolution with Shanley. White men are just expected to be silent and let her disparage any work they do that doesn't meet her world view.
Thank you Chad, for making the world a better place with your work. I disagreed with how you implicitly supported a sexist comment on HackerNews but I think that is a forgivable offense and that the good you do with Gittip far outweighs the negative of that action.
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I'm only going to make one comment on this thread:
If you use this thread to make disparaging comments about Shanley, you're missing the point and you're doing it wrong. Go look at how respectfully I tried to treat Shanley when she gave me tons of crap, and then go do the same thing. Shanley's abuse does not make your abuse okay.
Let's all be kind to each other! :D
You made this "open letter" knowing it's a lightning rod to abuse her. Since that was a predictable outcome of your action, you share responsibility in abuse.
I resent you leading abuse against her, especially when we give you our money... to give to decent people.
I resent you piling onto her (ironically from Medium) while her account is protected due to other attacks.
I resent your "need" to do so PUBLICLY to someone who suffers threats of violence for fundamentally improving the world. Your reason: "because my resentment is my problem, and I need to express it to you".
I resent you THANKING people who call your top users (like her) "professional victims" -- yet you "resent" it when important criticism is turned onto you.
This seems entirely unfair. She publicly and viscously attacked him for not running his company (which paid her) in a way that best suited his interests.
When he responds with "You hurt my feelings when you did X" he is piling on and contributing to her abuse? Her attitude would've hurt my feelings. There seem to be no acceptable avenues through which to attempt any sort of conflict resolution with Shanley. White men are just expected to be silent and let her disparage any work they do that doesn't meet her world view.
Thank you Chad, for making the world a better place with your work. I disagreed with how you implicitly supported a sexist comment on HackerNews but I think that is a forgivable offense and that the good you do with Gittip far outweighs the negative of that action.
What sexist comment did Chad make?
If this is you being kind, I hope I never raise your ire.