I have experienced similar sorts of crap behavior in the past (racial, violent, etc.) - my only recourse in some cases were to respond to violence with violence unfortunately, although it did have a net positive effect that I somehow gained respect & the reputation that I would fight back, so that no one would mess with me. The downside is that sometimes you end up having to continually prove yourself at various points in your life.
Violence is not my preferred method of retaliation though - violence in itself does not prove a point, except that I am not willing to be trampled on. It has also backfired on me in the past at times (ex. fracturing my hand while in boot camp from retaliating over getting punched in a stressful moment - the initial punch I took was due to some mythical blame that I was at fault for the platoon getting jacked up). Sometimes you cannot do anything else when a bully attacks you directly - the only thing such people understand is meeting power with power, that is the state of their brutish mind. They don't ascribe to the fundamental premise of mutual respect, even when you have not done anything that should have provoked it. You're just used as an excuse to vent out frustrations over self-deficiencies or failures.
This is why we, the new privileged class of tech, should be doing everything to abet this behavior, and show that we should be welcoming - we should be showing that there is a better way than repeating the same old animalistic behavior in a new form. Behavior like this or what Julie experienced is abhorrent, and commentary should take into account that we are talking about people who have experienced what no one should experience ever.
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I have experienced similar sorts of crap behavior in the past (racial, violent, etc.) - my only recourse in some cases were to respond to violence with violence unfortunately, although it did have a net positive effect that I somehow gained respect & the reputation that I would fight back, so that no one would mess with me. The downside is that sometimes you end up having to continually prove yourself at various points in your life.
Violence is not my preferred method of retaliation though - violence in itself does not prove a point, except that I am not willing to be trampled on. It has also backfired on me in the past at times (ex. fracturing my hand while in boot camp from retaliating over getting punched in a stressful moment - the initial punch I took was due to some mythical blame that I was at fault for the platoon getting jacked up). Sometimes you cannot do anything else when a bully attacks you directly - the only thing such people understand is meeting power with power, that is the state of their brutish mind. They don't ascribe to the fundamental premise of mutual respect, even when you have not done anything that should have provoked it. You're just used as an excuse to vent out frustrations over self-deficiencies or failures.
This is why we, the new privileged class of tech, should be doing everything to abet this behavior, and show that we should be welcoming - we should be showing that there is a better way than repeating the same old animalistic behavior in a new form. Behavior like this or what Julie experienced is abhorrent, and commentary should take into account that we are talking about people who have experienced what no one should experience ever.