Many colleges these days (particularly in progressive urban areas) have a big hook-up culture. Dating in college is pretty tough too: very few people are actually interested in dating, it's largely "I got drunk at a party and hooked up with this guy I met on the dance floor".
The equation changes dramatically after age 30, when a number of women who spent their 20s figuring out what they want, going after it, and generally making themselves awesome all decide they want to find a husband, and then realize that many of the guys who were interested in committing got married in their mid-20s, and many of the guys who are left have no intention of settling down...ever.
If I had to give advice to my 20-year-old self, as my 32-year-old-with-a-steady-girlfriend-self who didn't start dating until 29, it'd probably be not to sweat it so much. Go out, explore life, meet women, have fun, and realize that nobody has it figured out at 20. Being picky and taking dating more seriously than it needs to be just meant that I got to make all the mistakes at age 30 that I should've made at age 20.
This is good advice. Thanks. I do have a habit of overthinking things and spending too much time in my head. I'll try to stop taking dating (and myself even) too seriously.
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Many colleges these days (particularly in progressive urban areas) have a big hook-up culture. Dating in college is pretty tough too: very few people are actually interested in dating, it's largely "I got drunk at a party and hooked up with this guy I met on the dance floor".
The equation changes dramatically after age 30, when a number of women who spent their 20s figuring out what they want, going after it, and generally making themselves awesome all decide they want to find a husband, and then realize that many of the guys who were interested in committing got married in their mid-20s, and many of the guys who are left have no intention of settling down...ever.
If I had to give advice to my 20-year-old self, as my 32-year-old-with-a-steady-girlfriend-self who didn't start dating until 29, it'd probably be not to sweat it so much. Go out, explore life, meet women, have fun, and realize that nobody has it figured out at 20. Being picky and taking dating more seriously than it needs to be just meant that I got to make all the mistakes at age 30 that I should've made at age 20.
This is good advice. Thanks. I do have a habit of overthinking things and spending too much time in my head. I'll try to stop taking dating (and myself even) too seriously.