the only thing that ever worked for me is a wig and a cocktail dress... suddenly I get all demure and coy .... the problem is I end up psychologically scarring anyone who makes the mistake of catching my eye!

..... ahem

EDIT: besides the flippant humour of the remark I was trying to make a point of gender identities and social profiles when it comes to interaction. It can be surprisingly easy to pick out the "Alpha" and those more subservient or devious when watching a conversation. I wouldn't be surprised at all if speech conventions had a very strict social hierarchy attributed to meaningful measures such as confidence and deviousness.