The point of the analogy is merely this: You are telling someone going through a potentially awful experience that you were in an entirely different situation where the outcome for you was far far better.
So if you really want to stick with the analogy, it's like an amicably-divorced-and-remarried man telling a widower to just cheer up.
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Except that, in your analogy, my wife is now married to someone else.
The point of the analogy is merely this: You are telling someone going through a potentially awful experience that you were in an entirely different situation where the outcome for you was far far better.
So if you really want to stick with the analogy, it's like an amicably-divorced-and-remarried man telling a widower to just cheer up.