Most people want to be trusted and given autonomy, and they want to live up to your expectations.
There will always be a few who are looking for ways to cheat the system, but they are the exception, not the rule—and the earlier in life you can get to them with a policy of trust and lifting them up, rather than suspicion and tearing them down, the more likely they will be to turn out well.
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Yes, this, precisely.
Most people want to be trusted and given autonomy, and they want to live up to your expectations.
There will always be a few who are looking for ways to cheat the system, but they are the exception, not the rule—and the earlier in life you can get to them with a policy of trust and lifting them up, rather than suspicion and tearing them down, the more likely they will be to turn out well.
See Self-Determination Theory (SDT) - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-determination_theory