I will add that rarely are the reasons we believe something enough to change the minds of people with different views. No matter how well reasoned or how often we explain ourselves.
If we don’t understand why they hold their views, we inevitably leave valid (real, or in their best experience real) concerns, or knowledge we take for granted, but they don’t have, both totally unaddressed.
We have to understand others well, in their terms, to effect change.
And, of course, to learn from others when they see something, however sharply or dimly, that we have missed. Generally people with differing views, do see something we don’t.
Unfortunately, expressing frustration or impatience with viewpoint intransigence, faithfully reveals we don’t understand the views we are critiquing. Don’t call people “deplorables”. That is footgun credibility suicide.
Understanding, respect, and patience; none are optional.
Make everyone your ally in figuring out a way through any mess.
Pete Buttigieg in the hot seat of Fox News interviews is incredible at this. He also becomes disarmingly likable as a result. Credibility armor upgrade achieved. One wonders why something that works so well, is so rare.
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I will add that rarely are the reasons we believe something enough to change the minds of people with different views. No matter how well reasoned or how often we explain ourselves.
If we don’t understand why they hold their views, we inevitably leave valid (real, or in their best experience real) concerns, or knowledge we take for granted, but they don’t have, both totally unaddressed.
We have to understand others well, in their terms, to effect change.
And, of course, to learn from others when they see something, however sharply or dimly, that we have missed. Generally people with differing views, do see something we don’t.
Unfortunately, expressing frustration or impatience with viewpoint intransigence, faithfully reveals we don’t understand the views we are critiquing. Don’t call people “deplorables”. That is footgun credibility suicide.
Understanding, respect, and patience; none are optional.
Make everyone your ally in figuring out a way through any mess.
Pete Buttigieg in the hot seat of Fox News interviews is incredible at this. He also becomes disarmingly likable as a result. Credibility armor upgrade achieved. One wonders why something that works so well, is so rare.