I'm judging her by her writing. If I had the opportunity to meet her I may think differently. You are right, "complete lack of social skills" is probably way too extreme, but she definitely lacks some social skills if she is letting comments like she described get under her skin. People making those comments are not coming from a position of power (even if they are managers). They are the weak people in the chain and people with strong social skills deal with those people and move on. It is part of life.
Frankly, these "jokes" (in scare quotes, because they aren't funny) are simply a form of bullying or mobbing [1].
Not enjoying bullying, especially if it goes on for months or years, does not say anything about your social skills, either good or bad. It does say a lot about your workplace if such bullies are a permanent fixture, and if the problem persists, then cutting your losses and moving on is probably the sensible thing to do.
Yes, ideally, you should stand your ground and fight, but if this kind of garbage is tolerated by management, you're fighting a losing battle.
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I'm judging her by her writing. If I had the opportunity to meet her I may think differently. You are right, "complete lack of social skills" is probably way too extreme, but she definitely lacks some social skills if she is letting comments like she described get under her skin. People making those comments are not coming from a position of power (even if they are managers). They are the weak people in the chain and people with strong social skills deal with those people and move on. It is part of life.
"People making those comments are not coming from a position of power (even if they are managers)"
I haven't laughed this hard in a few days. Thanks for that.
Glad I could help you lighten up.
Frankly, these "jokes" (in scare quotes, because they aren't funny) are simply a form of bullying or mobbing [1].
Not enjoying bullying, especially if it goes on for months or years, does not say anything about your social skills, either good or bad. It does say a lot about your workplace if such bullies are a permanent fixture, and if the problem persists, then cutting your losses and moving on is probably the sensible thing to do.
Yes, ideally, you should stand your ground and fight, but if this kind of garbage is tolerated by management, you're fighting a losing battle.
[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mobbing
> People making those comments are not coming from a position of power (even if they are managers).
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