I have mixed feelings about this, because I've seen both sides intimately. There are definitely parents of assholes, and parents who screwed up but won't be forgiven, for sure.
But I've also seen deeply narcissistic parents hang out in forums like this, who either refuse to, or are incapable of, acknowledging everything they did to drive their children away, even to themselves.
So true. Parents and children can be narcissists. However if I read from parents that they have done "nothing wrong" it is a red flag immediately. I have two young kids. Being a good parent is hard.
We all make mistakes all the time and the important part is to make good for them and not reject all responsibility for problems that have emerged.
If your child rejects you, maybe you should not go and demand proof of your wrongdoing. Sometimes even you must acknowledge failure if you are convinced otherwise because you are the parent and have to be an example.
However if I read from parents that they have done
"nothing wrong" it is a red flag immediately. I have
two young kids. Being a good parent is hard.
Absolutely. I didn't fully appreciate my parents until I started raising pets. I cannot even tell you how many mistakes I've made raising pets despite loving them and trying my hardest, and pets are (in most regards) waaaay simpler.
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I have mixed feelings about this, because I've seen both sides intimately. There are definitely parents of assholes, and parents who screwed up but won't be forgiven, for sure.
But I've also seen deeply narcissistic parents hang out in forums like this, who either refuse to, or are incapable of, acknowledging everything they did to drive their children away, even to themselves.
Take the comments with a grain of salt, is all.
So true. Parents and children can be narcissists. However if I read from parents that they have done "nothing wrong" it is a red flag immediately. I have two young kids. Being a good parent is hard.
We all make mistakes all the time and the important part is to make good for them and not reject all responsibility for problems that have emerged.
If your child rejects you, maybe you should not go and demand proof of your wrongdoing. Sometimes even you must acknowledge failure if you are convinced otherwise because you are the parent and have to be an example.