I wonder what the authors of this article are trying to achieve.
Do they want to get back in touch with their estranged adult children? If that’s the goal then this approach is unlikely to be successful.
It reads more like someone who is hurting, but doesn’t want to take responsibility for their part in the dynamic, so they’re making it the fault of the other party. It might make them feel better in the short term, but it’s a terrible long term strategy.
Yeah, and the very idea that it's meaningful group together the parents as the victims and the children as the perpetrators tells me that the people behind this website are being unreasonable.
That's not how relationships work. If your relationship with your child breaks down and you go to club together with other parents and deliberately create a grouped division like this, instead of actually examining the things the actions that led to your individual situation, I can't really take you seriously!
And if I _was_ going to "take a side" in the ridiculous aggregation of all broken paren-child relationships... I'm not gonna take the side of the people who had absolute power over the other side's entire childhood, set most of the behavioural examples, and has an additional generation's worth of experience managing conflict.
Edit: this is a bit like men who respond to a breakup by becoming online mysogynists. Maybe the other individual _was_ just a manipulative psychopath but if your response is to politicise that experience into "women are manipulative psychopaths" then it's obvious you don't understand people or relationships.
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I wonder what the authors of this article are trying to achieve.
Do they want to get back in touch with their estranged adult children? If that’s the goal then this approach is unlikely to be successful.
It reads more like someone who is hurting, but doesn’t want to take responsibility for their part in the dynamic, so they’re making it the fault of the other party. It might make them feel better in the short term, but it’s a terrible long term strategy.
Yeah, and the very idea that it's meaningful group together the parents as the victims and the children as the perpetrators tells me that the people behind this website are being unreasonable.
That's not how relationships work. If your relationship with your child breaks down and you go to club together with other parents and deliberately create a grouped division like this, instead of actually examining the things the actions that led to your individual situation, I can't really take you seriously!
And if I _was_ going to "take a side" in the ridiculous aggregation of all broken paren-child relationships... I'm not gonna take the side of the people who had absolute power over the other side's entire childhood, set most of the behavioural examples, and has an additional generation's worth of experience managing conflict.
Edit: this is a bit like men who respond to a breakup by becoming online mysogynists. Maybe the other individual _was_ just a manipulative psychopath but if your response is to politicise that experience into "women are manipulative psychopaths" then it's obvious you don't understand people or relationships.