I've used Pair and I've also used TheIceBreak and I really don't understand the frenzy over Pair. I just don't understand how it's different from MMS. I've been more impressed by the robust product that TheIceBreak offers. I especially love their Icebreaker section and the ability to track my relationship over time. I think I would give them a shot and see if it offers more to you than Pair does.