I don't see what this has to do with Narcissism. It's certainly a problem in society but I'm not seeing it here.
You did just describe a woman into "findom." They tend to be sadistic to their "paypigs," jerking them around (but not off) while extracting as much money as possible from them and dumping/extorting them in some humiliating manner.
FinDom is when you know what you are getting into it and do it anyways.
If you hire someone to dominate you, because you enjoy it, that is between you and them.
If someone comes into your life, mirrors you, pretends to be into everything you are into, gathers personal info pretending to be someone they are not, then turns it around and begins abusing you.
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I don't see what this has to do with Narcissism. It's certainly a problem in society but I'm not seeing it here.
You did just describe a woman into "findom." They tend to be sadistic to their "paypigs," jerking them around (but not off) while extracting as much money as possible from them and dumping/extorting them in some humiliating manner.
FinDom is when you know what you are getting into it and do it anyways.
If you hire someone to dominate you, because you enjoy it, that is between you and them.
If someone comes into your life, mirrors you, pretends to be into everything you are into, gathers personal info pretending to be someone they are not, then turns it around and begins abusing you.
That is covert malignant narcissim.