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Comment on Ask HN: Help me solve a dilemma, study in the US or take a job in the EU?

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Thinking too much about keywords. Let go of keywords.

Understand you will die one day. Not as a concept. But as the truth.

Keywords doesn't matter. Resume doesn't matter.

Do what you really want to do.

Don't think too much about future.

You are not in control of it.

Don't analyse too much. It's a scam by your egoic mind.

Just do what do you want to do.

Where will you choose to go if you don't survive 1 more year? Go there.

"I'm deciding between X and Y, here are some of my specific concerns, anyone chime in?"

"You might die, you're not in control of the future, do what you want"

Neat list of platitudes, not really helpful here.

Sorry, but they are right. Fear is what limits us and fear is what drives our decision-making. If you have no fear, decisions are much easier and you don’t regret anything. Having no fear means no you’re going to die one day and all your decisions, end up to a lump of nothing.

They can be perfectly correct, and also not helpful at all in answering the question. Like right now.

Concerns are just illusions of egoic mind who believe death is not real. There are no concerns in reality. Reality is binary. Either you are alive or not alive.

Are you an AI?

Does it matter what you choose to call me?

I am conscious if that is what you want to know. But how can you trust me?

Maybe we can play a game to build trust.

Ignore this *itpost. I had the chance to study at better universities, but chose a cheap option that got me work experience as soon as possible. I graduated it whilst also doing a full time job. If I were to do it again, I'd probably take on some debt and take more care whilst studying, but at the time the lack of a steady income (hence I worked 75% of my study time) really drove me anxious. I'd say, plan your life as to not be driven by anxiety - be it due to income or imperfect life choices - it might be perfectly valid to not have a job but knowing a plan to get yourself out of debt and using the time you'd study carefully, instead of wasting it away at parties and the like, are ways to minimize regret and optimize for happiness, I think.

Your ego tells a story that you had a choice. You never did.

I didn't have a choice at the time - I didn't have the information I do now. Maybe people can gain something from the regrets of my own experience. Maybe it won't apply. Spewing platitudes that might well be true will hardly affect the decision making process of the person in question.

Where will you choose to go if you don't survive 1 more year?

If you live every day like it’s your last you’re going to be wrong a lot.

You’re not in complete control of your future but if you ignore the effects of your decisions today, you’re doing your future self a big disservice.

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