Parents are different. Reading sociology, it seems that those who got from blue-collar families to be white-collars their life, feel this isn't guaranteed and are obsessed with grades and extra-curricular training, like music.
Psychologists point out that a very frequent complaint is like this: "fix my kid. he wants nothing. codes on his computer/plays sports/reads that stupid scifi, dropped out from music/sports/drawing classes."
In fact, sociologist Bourdieau pointed out that lots of skills that help at school are inherited. E.g. you have a geographical atlas or map at home, and at school you easily perceive all the data in the geography class, whereas to others it's just like senseless magic speels to be learned by heart.
My personal observation is that parents who were born into white-collar and especially who saw this "social class panic" by their own parents, are much more relaxed about school and grades.
It usually does. But I think such parents have distorted perception. When parents were blue-collar kids, they studied at lower-grade schools, and with some persistence could get high grades. This allowed them to get to university and move up by social ladder. (Even though, there's been a trend that more % of people get higher education.)
And then they set much higher standard for school, sending children to where it's really hard to get all A-s, even though the kid performs pretty well, way above the nation average.
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Parents are different. Reading sociology, it seems that those who got from blue-collar families to be white-collars their life, feel this isn't guaranteed and are obsessed with grades and extra-curricular training, like music.
Psychologists point out that a very frequent complaint is like this: "fix my kid. he wants nothing. codes on his computer/plays sports/reads that stupid scifi, dropped out from music/sports/drawing classes."
In fact, sociologist Bourdieau pointed out that lots of skills that help at school are inherited. E.g. you have a geographical atlas or map at home, and at school you easily perceive all the data in the geography class, whereas to others it's just like senseless magic speels to be learned by heart.
My personal observation is that parents who were born into white-collar and especially who saw this "social class panic" by their own parents, are much more relaxed about school and grades.
One imagines it's easier to relax when your performance at school won't have much of a material impact on your situation.
It usually does. But I think such parents have distorted perception. When parents were blue-collar kids, they studied at lower-grade schools, and with some persistence could get high grades. This allowed them to get to university and move up by social ladder. (Even though, there's been a trend that more % of people get higher education.)
And then they set much higher standard for school, sending children to where it's really hard to get all A-s, even though the kid performs pretty well, way above the nation average.
Interesting perspective, not something I'd considered but seems quite likely.