He wants it. He wants it so bad. But even when he puts in the work, has the drive, and tries so much success isn't there.
This is the flip side to every multi million dollar exits of some social widget or TechCrunch rah rah bullshit or the stock buyouts of a collapsed firm.
This the reality in the tech game. Not everyone wins. I know this, I felt this, I felt the highs and lows.
But something isn't working. Many point out to trying too much, too hard, psychological, depression, so on so forth. These comments here ring a bit hollow because they dismiss what Zak already wrote. He is a smart cookie, he knows the sickness, he knows the cure. The only remedy is change. Not only change but be brave enough to also accept change. The metaphorical come-to-Jesus moment is nigh.
Then take five minutes and really think about this and see this for what it is. This post has been read over 9000 times--almost a third of all tech workers in the city of San Francisco--and rallied over 80 comments with people even arguing whether suggestions are mean sprited. Meaning: you are not alone.
Others get this, others empathize. Because we are the community that wakes up every morning and want it bad too. That in itself is pretty amazing.
What's the real solution? No one can give you that. It's going to be personal. You're a startup vet. Deep down you know what to do. Success is not a straight line, it's meandering, it's failures, it just is.
Well said. Everyone's formula is different based on their internal and external support structures. I do feel the qualities in a potential solution are more common, than not.
1) It starts and ends with building and maintaining a positive, healthy inner-dialogue. That is the single biggest thing that drags everyone down.
2) Be a friend to yourself. Be a friend to your future self. It's as much about valuing your own journey and time as it is trying to figure it all out. It's not all supposed to be figured out. We have to figure out enough to keep moving, inward, onward, upward.
3) Change is entirely the issue. Instead of changing for the sake of change, we don't pay enough attention to the subtle, but huge fact of whether we're changing for the better.
4) Experiences are worthless if positive lessons aren't learnt. It doesn't matter what anyone does or doesn't do, this axiom I've found to be true anywhere I look. When one gets caught up so haphazardly collecting experiences and not paying attention to "Have I stopped learning or growing positively", we start feeding the weeds as much as the garden.
I don't want to detract from what you wrote by saying much else. I agree with the rest of what you wrote :)
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He wants it. He wants it so bad. But even when he puts in the work, has the drive, and tries so much success isn't there.
This is the flip side to every multi million dollar exits of some social widget or TechCrunch rah rah bullshit or the stock buyouts of a collapsed firm.
This the reality in the tech game. Not everyone wins. I know this, I felt this, I felt the highs and lows.
But something isn't working. Many point out to trying too much, too hard, psychological, depression, so on so forth. These comments here ring a bit hollow because they dismiss what Zak already wrote. He is a smart cookie, he knows the sickness, he knows the cure. The only remedy is change. Not only change but be brave enough to also accept change. The metaphorical come-to-Jesus moment is nigh.
Then take five minutes and really think about this and see this for what it is. This post has been read over 9000 times--almost a third of all tech workers in the city of San Francisco--and rallied over 80 comments with people even arguing whether suggestions are mean sprited. Meaning: you are not alone.
Others get this, others empathize. Because we are the community that wakes up every morning and want it bad too. That in itself is pretty amazing.
What's the real solution? No one can give you that. It's going to be personal. You're a startup vet. Deep down you know what to do. Success is not a straight line, it's meandering, it's failures, it just is.
Cheers.
Well said. Everyone's formula is different based on their internal and external support structures. I do feel the qualities in a potential solution are more common, than not.
1) It starts and ends with building and maintaining a positive, healthy inner-dialogue. That is the single biggest thing that drags everyone down.
2) Be a friend to yourself. Be a friend to your future self. It's as much about valuing your own journey and time as it is trying to figure it all out. It's not all supposed to be figured out. We have to figure out enough to keep moving, inward, onward, upward.
3) Change is entirely the issue. Instead of changing for the sake of change, we don't pay enough attention to the subtle, but huge fact of whether we're changing for the better.
4) Experiences are worthless if positive lessons aren't learnt. It doesn't matter what anyone does or doesn't do, this axiom I've found to be true anywhere I look. When one gets caught up so haphazardly collecting experiences and not paying attention to "Have I stopped learning or growing positively", we start feeding the weeds as much as the garden.
I don't want to detract from what you wrote by saying much else. I agree with the rest of what you wrote :)