Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women. I'm no stranger to the darkness, and I know that in some environments, I feel everyday, just as you do.
Force a change, go somewhere else. I found SV to be beautiful, but how long can you really stay in a male-dominated atmosphere, and still stay sane/happy? I know this sounds really shallow, but pause for a moment and think about it. Regardless of what's logical, sometimes you need to surrender to your base instincts - especially when you're dealing with illogical, irrational emotions.
Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women.
If you actually do this, you may find that you'll be sad in a way that you never expected before. Fantasies unexpectedly realized are emptied of their purpose and become just another form of unsatisfactory reality.
That depends on personality. Many artists found looking or spending time with beautiful woman their way to achieve something otherwise they couldn't. They were their "inspiring thing". While to others, its a distraction from higher goals. So, his advice may work 50/50.
Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women.
As a fellow straight male, I sort of agree and disagree with this. First, you make it sound awfully easy, when that's not necessarily the case. "Surround yourself with beautiful women" is not necessarily as easy as "Tune this JBossMQ messaging system to deliver 10000 messages / hour to the consumers." Plenty of hacker/geek types are a lot better at the latter than the former.
But maybe the bigger issue is that women (or men, to the women out there) can be the cause of as much sadness as happiness. Meeting someone, spending time with them, starting to develop an emotional connection with them, and then having the relationship blow up in your face, is extremely depressing. In my personal experience, some of the most depressed times in my life have involved women. Now sure, there's a mindset of "have plenty of women in your life, don't get emotionally attached to any one, be a player," etc. But even if you want that (and not everybody would), it's a big investment of time, energy, etc. to achieve that lifestyle. And that is, in turn, time taken away from your startup. Even more to the point, some people may feel the need to achieve startup success, before they feel like they can achieve "opposite sex" success. There's a lot of self-image stuff involved in our interactions with the opposite sex, ya know?
Anyway, if there's a point to all this rambling, it's to say "Sure, women are good, but happiness isn't as easy as an offhand comment to 'have more women in your life.'"
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Speaking as a straight male:
Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women. I'm no stranger to the darkness, and I know that in some environments, I feel everyday, just as you do.
Force a change, go somewhere else. I found SV to be beautiful, but how long can you really stay in a male-dominated atmosphere, and still stay sane/happy? I know this sounds really shallow, but pause for a moment and think about it. Regardless of what's logical, sometimes you need to surrender to your base instincts - especially when you're dealing with illogical, irrational emotions.
Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women.
If you actually do this, you may find that you'll be sad in a way that you never expected before. Fantasies unexpectedly realized are emptied of their purpose and become just another form of unsatisfactory reality.
That depends on personality. Many artists found looking or spending time with beautiful woman their way to achieve something otherwise they couldn't. They were their "inspiring thing". While to others, its a distraction from higher goals. So, his advice may work 50/50.
"Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women."
If this was true there would be no depression in Hollywood. This is not the case.
Surround yourself with beautiful women; it's hard to get sad around beautiful women.
As a fellow straight male, I sort of agree and disagree with this. First, you make it sound awfully easy, when that's not necessarily the case. "Surround yourself with beautiful women" is not necessarily as easy as "Tune this JBossMQ messaging system to deliver 10000 messages / hour to the consumers." Plenty of hacker/geek types are a lot better at the latter than the former.
But maybe the bigger issue is that women (or men, to the women out there) can be the cause of as much sadness as happiness. Meeting someone, spending time with them, starting to develop an emotional connection with them, and then having the relationship blow up in your face, is extremely depressing. In my personal experience, some of the most depressed times in my life have involved women. Now sure, there's a mindset of "have plenty of women in your life, don't get emotionally attached to any one, be a player," etc. But even if you want that (and not everybody would), it's a big investment of time, energy, etc. to achieve that lifestyle. And that is, in turn, time taken away from your startup. Even more to the point, some people may feel the need to achieve startup success, before they feel like they can achieve "opposite sex" success. There's a lot of self-image stuff involved in our interactions with the opposite sex, ya know?
Anyway, if there's a point to all this rambling, it's to say "Sure, women are good, but happiness isn't as easy as an offhand comment to 'have more women in your life.'"
there's some truth to this but I'd word it as: get some affection, and touch. Many times when ppl are depressed, we just are missing love.