oh, I'm not interested in tearing the boundary down. I'm not particularly hurt and the people who needed to leave, left. No axes to grind, nor hatchets to bury -- and, frankly, I've been one of the people who has done some of the leaving.

I'm more interested in understanding the phenomenon. Self-understanding has intrinsic value. Something therapy culture gets right.

P.S.

Upon reread, I'd suggest that, yes, we do have some obligations to one another -- we have duties to one another that go beyond I've-got-mine liberalism. In much the same way that a small town facing a rising river might cause some people to work together and set up sandbags, I believe that communities (or at least the kind I want to belong to) have collective obligations that are activated by adverse circumstances.

I also have no interest in arguing this point; your values may differ, and that, as I am exhausted of both saying and hearing, is 'valid'. :)