Have you helped them get an understanding of how alcohol effects them? In many jurisdictions, even if it is illegal for a minor to purchase alcohol, it is legal for them to drink at home under the supervision of their parent or legal guardian. Lots of parents are horrified by the idea of letting their teen drink at home but it's an opportunity to help them learn their limits, understand how it affects their behavior, and removes the mystery and taboo from it. I'm not talking about having them do keg stands. Wine with dinner once a week and occasionally other types of drinks goes a long way teaching them how to deal with alcohol in a responsible manner. Obviously you want to control this because even adults sometime have trouble finding and abiding by their limits but you want them to discover this while still at home rather than during their first semester away at college.
A lot of people "learn how to drink" in college, often through trial and fire. Many of us have a few stories of getting too drunk in our early 20's and learning those consequences the "hard way". Considering how likely it is for any given young college student to engage in drinking/partying after leaving home, getting that knowledge in the safety of their parents home, ideally through experiences less harmful then maybe expected through learning the "hard way", guided by the more-experienced parents, what you suggest makes a lot of sense to me. For example, some people find it nearly impossible to stop drinking when they start, or they may have an alcohol intolerance leading to inebriation with much smaller amounts of alcohol - great information to know before going into an environment like college.
Anecdotally, and to reinforce your point, people in my family and a lot of my friends have been drinking since childhood and all of us have a normal relationship to alcohol.
That being said I'm pretty sure every teenager will get way too hammered at one point or another, it's a quintessential teenage experience.
I second that. It is pretty inevitable that teenagers get to experiment with alcohol, it is best to do that in a safe environment. My mother told me back then, that if I have to get drunk (and sooner or later one will get, especially when inexperienced and getting carried away), please do that in safety at home.
While one shouldn't exactly encourage drinking, responsible drinking is part of our culture so allowing that for teens at the appropriate age (in Germany 16 and above) at home is the best way to give them the necessary experience and also being able to give advice where needed, as this then isn't a "taboo" topic.
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Have you helped them get an understanding of how alcohol effects them? In many jurisdictions, even if it is illegal for a minor to purchase alcohol, it is legal for them to drink at home under the supervision of their parent or legal guardian. Lots of parents are horrified by the idea of letting their teen drink at home but it's an opportunity to help them learn their limits, understand how it affects their behavior, and removes the mystery and taboo from it. I'm not talking about having them do keg stands. Wine with dinner once a week and occasionally other types of drinks goes a long way teaching them how to deal with alcohol in a responsible manner. Obviously you want to control this because even adults sometime have trouble finding and abiding by their limits but you want them to discover this while still at home rather than during their first semester away at college.
A lot of people "learn how to drink" in college, often through trial and fire. Many of us have a few stories of getting too drunk in our early 20's and learning those consequences the "hard way". Considering how likely it is for any given young college student to engage in drinking/partying after leaving home, getting that knowledge in the safety of their parents home, ideally through experiences less harmful then maybe expected through learning the "hard way", guided by the more-experienced parents, what you suggest makes a lot of sense to me. For example, some people find it nearly impossible to stop drinking when they start, or they may have an alcohol intolerance leading to inebriation with much smaller amounts of alcohol - great information to know before going into an environment like college.
Anecdotally, and to reinforce your point, people in my family and a lot of my friends have been drinking since childhood and all of us have a normal relationship to alcohol.
That being said I'm pretty sure every teenager will get way too hammered at one point or another, it's a quintessential teenage experience.
I second that. It is pretty inevitable that teenagers get to experiment with alcohol, it is best to do that in a safe environment. My mother told me back then, that if I have to get drunk (and sooner or later one will get, especially when inexperienced and getting carried away), please do that in safety at home.
While one shouldn't exactly encourage drinking, responsible drinking is part of our culture so allowing that for teens at the appropriate age (in Germany 16 and above) at home is the best way to give them the necessary experience and also being able to give advice where needed, as this then isn't a "taboo" topic.