Thanks for clarifying! I can see now how that could be an example of prejudice.
I had a different scenario in mind: person A indicates their preferred pronouns to person B, but person B refuses to use those pronouns for well-considered reasons and with a full understanding of the situation. It's this scenario that I was arguing to not be a case of bigotry nor prejudice.
Oh, I thought lostcolony had already eliminated that specific scenario as not being bigoted. It can be biased, but it wouldn't be bigoted if there are justifiable reasons for not making the switch. That isn't prejudice as it is a decision made after the relevant details are known.
Just to be clear, for the parent, 'person B refuses to use those pronouns for well-considered reasons and with a full understanding of the situation' may apply when we're talking about systems, but there are plenty of people who would use that sort of reasoning to be why they refuse to use someone's pronouns in conversation. No one doing so believes their reasons are poorly considered and/or that they have an incomplete understanding of the situation, after all.
So, yes, "justifiable", as in, "to change that in the system would be a lot of cost and risk and we simply can't justify it, but I agree it sucks that it's that way", not as in "You were assigned male at birth and I refuse to use anything other than he/him when referring to you, because I believe I understand the science, and your personal situation, better than you".
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Thanks for clarifying! I can see now how that could be an example of prejudice.
I had a different scenario in mind: person A indicates their preferred pronouns to person B, but person B refuses to use those pronouns for well-considered reasons and with a full understanding of the situation. It's this scenario that I was arguing to not be a case of bigotry nor prejudice.
Oh, I thought lostcolony had already eliminated that specific scenario as not being bigoted. It can be biased, but it wouldn't be bigoted if there are justifiable reasons for not making the switch. That isn't prejudice as it is a decision made after the relevant details are known.
Just to be clear, for the parent, 'person B refuses to use those pronouns for well-considered reasons and with a full understanding of the situation' may apply when we're talking about systems, but there are plenty of people who would use that sort of reasoning to be why they refuse to use someone's pronouns in conversation. No one doing so believes their reasons are poorly considered and/or that they have an incomplete understanding of the situation, after all.
So, yes, "justifiable", as in, "to change that in the system would be a lot of cost and risk and we simply can't justify it, but I agree it sucks that it's that way", not as in "You were assigned male at birth and I refuse to use anything other than he/him when referring to you, because I believe I understand the science, and your personal situation, better than you".
Not sure if "for the parent" was directed at me or the parent of my comment, but you and I are in complete agreement.