“Try to never be the person who cares the most” was an offhand remark my dad made to me when I was stressed over a group project in school. It helped me what in hindsight would’ve been very stressful situation many, many times.
I really appreciated this advice. It's vague enough that if it relates to your life, you'll probably see how when you hear it.
I think I can apply it to both my work life, thinking about times where I overworked myself at a company where nobody else cared enough, and to my personal life, thinking about times where I invested myself fully into relationships where it wasn't certain to be requited.
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“Try to never be the person who cares the most” was an offhand remark my dad made to me when I was stressed over a group project in school. It helped me what in hindsight would’ve been very stressful situation many, many times.
This is great advice as an employee (which I try to follow and sometimes succeed), but practically impossible to follow as a founder.
It’s not for everyone, for sure. The larger implication is “live a good, comfortable life rather than an exceptional one”
I fall for that. Generally is a good advice, clears up your mind. Also, not all fights are worth fighting.
I don’t understand what problem this solves
Have you never been in a situation where you feel you care most about the project goals only to find out everybody else seems to care less?
It feels stressful and lonely because you feel like you have to hold all the strings together and if you fail, the whole project will fail.
Ask a psych major.
No I literally don’t know. Is it a way to be cooler and more accepted? A way to avoid the stress of a project? What?
Detachment, objectivity, negotiation, game theory.
WSJ Oct 2021, "Burned Out? Maybe You Should Care Less About Your Job", https://archive.md/2fsRi
I really appreciated this advice. It's vague enough that if it relates to your life, you'll probably see how when you hear it.
I think I can apply it to both my work life, thinking about times where I overworked myself at a company where nobody else cared enough, and to my personal life, thinking about times where I invested myself fully into relationships where it wasn't certain to be requited.