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Our minds have something like a circuit breaker that kicks in when our capacity to integrate our experience is overwhelmed.

You might want to take some time alone to be with your experience and not need to process the experience and behavior of others.

With time you can adapt to what happened and reclaim your full experience. For now there is dullness and fatigue while your mind tries to hold together your old way of being.

It will get better—if you let it. You must learn to feel.

I have experienced the "circuit breaker" and seen others go through the same. It appears to be part of the shock reaction that stops us from freezing.

I have lost both parents, a relative to MND and two friends to ODs. In every case the sense unreality was the initial reaction. Helped me to remain functional at the time and then with time the waves of grief came.

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