If I had to deal with a situation like this, the first thing I would do would be to examine what I have actually observed.
You may have a theory (e.g. "he uses few words and doesn't start with pleasantries before making a request" -> "he is intending to be rude"). But making that theory explicit will better allow you to examine it.
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You've mentioned two beliefs:
- the person is using a rude tone
- they are doing it for reason X
Neither of these are objective facts.
If I had to deal with a situation like this, the first thing I would do would be to examine what I have actually observed.
You may have a theory (e.g. "he uses few words and doesn't start with pleasantries before making a request" -> "he is intending to be rude"). But making that theory explicit will better allow you to examine it.
I've mentioned in my post that I'm not looking for inputs on how to deal with my situation.
I want to hear about the experiences of others in such situations.