I've heard this criticism of NVC, and to me it doesn't make sense why this is blamed on the method and not the person. Manipulative people will use any tools to manipulate.
The issue is that once the damage is done, it very quickly loses what impact it had as a tool. If a person has been in a corporate or even personal environment where NVC was abused, -any- use of it might cause someone to put their 'shields up'
My sister is pretty well meaning but her use of NVC can be pretty annoying. It requires some social skill to recognize when NVC is appropriate and when not.
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I've heard this criticism of NVC, and to me it doesn't make sense why this is blamed on the method and not the person. Manipulative people will use any tools to manipulate.
The issue is that once the damage is done, it very quickly loses what impact it had as a tool. If a person has been in a corporate or even personal environment where NVC was abused, -any- use of it might cause someone to put their 'shields up'
My sister is pretty well meaning but her use of NVC can be pretty annoying. It requires some social skill to recognize when NVC is appropriate and when not.
That is exactly my point.