Regarding your troubles with "ordering of operations". I've found it varies on installation, but that each team works to avoid these issues by setting a standard on module development. So that when you "include 'ntp'" you know exactly what you are getting. I've seen many different ideas on how to accomplish this, all of which made it really easy to include without ramifications.

Also, regarding testing. I think this is an issue with both Chef and Puppet. Something I hope someone addresses at some point in the future. I've seen some custom tools with some promise (Chef focused) but perhaps a Vagrant setup might be the best answer these days.