I want people to be capable and independent, they should be up front and honest about things but if someone is too stuck on the minutia of "how and how much" in terms of communication then what's the point?

On top of which, to be perfectly honest, the people I work with are barely a step above strangers to me, so the last thing I want is to hear about their personal life. I certainly don't know or trust these people enough to trust with anything more than "I've got personal/family/medical issues, can you work with me while I handle these things?" and quite frankly I don't want or expect anything more from my coworkers than that.