you're not going to sell many books by saying "think exactly as hard as you need to about the things you need to think about, make smart choices, pick relevant abstractions when you can, and choose the right tool for the job".

You're right. That's exactly what needs to be done but it will NEVER be perfect. There's always going to be some Yak shaving in all but the most pedestrian of projects.

Project managers might call it "unplanned work". They know it happens. Savvy ones accept it to some extent and realize that's a important part of how people build grit, experience and good judgement-- sometimes it takes a few hard knocks.