"You can't help somebody who doesn't want to be helped"
The impetus must come from you first and foremost. Neither therapist nor coach can force you to change, they exist only to support you. When you have a good enough reason to change, you will.
Or to quote my favorite anecdote from Amanda Palmer's book: doesn't hurt enough yet.
“A farmer is sitting on his porch in a chair, hanging out.
A friend walks up to the porch to say hello, and hears an awful yelping, squealing sound coming from inside the house.
"What's that terrifyin' sound?" asks the friend.
"It's my dog," said the farmer. "He's sittin' on a nail."
"Why doesn't he just sit up and get off it?" asks the friend.
The farmer deliberates on this and replies:
"Doesn't hurt enough yet.”
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"You can't help somebody who doesn't want to be helped"
The impetus must come from you first and foremost. Neither therapist nor coach can force you to change, they exist only to support you. When you have a good enough reason to change, you will.
Or to quote my favorite anecdote from Amanda Palmer's book: doesn't hurt enough yet.
“A farmer is sitting on his porch in a chair, hanging out. A friend walks up to the porch to say hello, and hears an awful yelping, squealing sound coming from inside the house. "What's that terrifyin' sound?" asks the friend. "It's my dog," said the farmer. "He's sittin' on a nail." "Why doesn't he just sit up and get off it?" asks the friend. The farmer deliberates on this and replies: "Doesn't hurt enough yet.”