That's pretty much my point ;-) At the time you think, "I have to make this work". You feel like you are failing big time and you have to try harder. You don't necessarily realise the cost of that effort. It's weird to say, "Is this really my priority?" Relationships don't always work out and that's fine. Don't let a bad relationship bulldoze the rest of your life too is what I'm trying to get at. It's great that it's never happened to you -- some people are either lucky or skilled in this area :-) Until I met the person who is my wife now, I was neither ;-)