I'm going to say this carefully - but, for me, having a significant other massssssively takes up an enormous part of my daily mental model that didn't exist when I was a kid or a teen. Not saying it's a bad thing, but there's this other very complex being I have to care for and make sure things are going OK there in some cases at unpredictable amounts of attention. And I'm not saying that I'm not a hugely complex being myself that my SO has to care for and place tons of attention on either.
Very much agree. I used to get much more stuff done when I was single, because I had a lot of time to myself. Being in a relationship is very different, albeit very nice. I'm working on organising my life so that I would have some more solitary time, though. I've only recently realized how much I need it to recharge.
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I'm going to say this carefully - but, for me, having a significant other massssssively takes up an enormous part of my daily mental model that didn't exist when I was a kid or a teen. Not saying it's a bad thing, but there's this other very complex being I have to care for and make sure things are going OK there in some cases at unpredictable amounts of attention. And I'm not saying that I'm not a hugely complex being myself that my SO has to care for and place tons of attention on either.
Enthusiastically agree. Learning to manage serious commitment like that it what has done the most for my growth as a person, I think
Very much agree. I used to get much more stuff done when I was single, because I had a lot of time to myself. Being in a relationship is very different, albeit very nice. I'm working on organising my life so that I would have some more solitary time, though. I've only recently realized how much I need it to recharge.