I think some men are missing three things:

- Belonging

- A Path

- Status

For most men in the past, family has provided both the path and belonging (in addition to career and hobbies etc).

As for status, it was a lot easier to be good at something in your small circles. Now with the internet it's almost impossible to be good at anything vs the rest of the world.

As for how we solve this, I'm not sure.