Maybe It's time for people to realise they don't 'deserve' sex and that they should get counselling, seek help and form constructive relationships that improve their lives rather than kill people.
This sounds like the equivalent of "Poor people should realise that society doesn't owe them anything, and should stop being lazy and instead work hard and be happy like me". "Incels" aren't all just too stupid to get out of a situation they don't want to be in, they're not willfully miserable. If it was as simple as just doing the right thing and becoming "normal" they'd probably have done it.
The word 'deserve' is not used in the article. I think you're missing the point by laying that on them (and by suggesting they're all killers). But counseling and help forming constructive relationships is what they need. On that we agree.
This is a tough read, and I admire the author for tackling the subject, especially in the wake of the recent killings. To even suggest sympathy for a group that are so manifestly unsympathetic is brave. And the incels themselves, man, I just want to shake these guys and say, "It's not all about sex. It's not all about you. Get over yourself. Get a life."
No one deserves sex. But I don't think we're doing the world any favors by piling on to people who are clearly in pain, no matter how much it's of their own making.
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Maybe It's time for people to realise they don't 'deserve' sex and that they should get counselling, seek help and form constructive relationships that improve their lives rather than kill people.
This sounds like the equivalent of "Poor people should realise that society doesn't owe them anything, and should stop being lazy and instead work hard and be happy like me". "Incels" aren't all just too stupid to get out of a situation they don't want to be in, they're not willfully miserable. If it was as simple as just doing the right thing and becoming "normal" they'd probably have done it.
The word 'deserve' is not used in the article. I think you're missing the point by laying that on them (and by suggesting they're all killers). But counseling and help forming constructive relationships is what they need. On that we agree.
This is a tough read, and I admire the author for tackling the subject, especially in the wake of the recent killings. To even suggest sympathy for a group that are so manifestly unsympathetic is brave. And the incels themselves, man, I just want to shake these guys and say, "It's not all about sex. It's not all about you. Get over yourself. Get a life."
No one deserves sex. But I don't think we're doing the world any favors by piling on to people who are clearly in pain, no matter how much it's of their own making.