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Forgot about this post. Maybe it's not sensible to come back to it, but whatever.

There are several points of bullshit in your post. The first is that you are _absolutely_ ashamed of who you are. You don't think you'll be good enough for women! That's a wild self-degradation on your part. You'd take 1/3 of the women on dating sites? What kind of valid self-estimation is that supposed to be?

Second, no one cares about technical perfection. Technical perfection is not artistry, for one thing; artistry is about being, taking space, feeling, and embracing honesty. Things that aren't quantified because they aren't rational. This threatens to stray from the topic, so I'll cut it short for now and skip to the clearer argument, which is: there is someone better than you. The world is huge. And what will you do when you meet that person, if your ego depends on being the technical best?

For some reason you seek out visible status symbols to mark your ego's progress. Not everyone can be the President. Not everyone can program. Being the best is not a victory.

>I am never ashamed of who I am, and I will meet you face to face, give you my real name, and look you in the eye.

You just won't do that if I'm a _woman._ And if you did, you'd probably do a lot better at talking with them.

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