Meanwhile we build a popular opinion that these things are dangerous and need to be restricted or regulated. Software ends up as the new "burglary tools."

If I'm against the regulation of software, it's because I don't trust the would-be regulators and deem the effort unrealistic - not because it "isn't dangerous". Software (particularly of the surveillance, de-anonymization, & big-spy-data variety) has an absolutely massive potential for horrific abuse, and hence is unequivocally dangerous both to the individual and free society as a whole.

We need to shame the people that would have used any means available to the same ends.

Why not both? I don't see why the investors, executives & engineers who make a cushy living off of developing tools that they know will be used to reduce the freedom of others don't also deserve to be shamed. You don't see many talented people flocking to work for big tobacco anymore.