I'm not sure I agree entirely with you. As a startup engineer who already had some 14+ hrs work day, and when getting home have a family + kids waiting for me fill in a role as a father. I'm not even sure we have extra time for a side project for fun on the weekends. To me, being a dad is always take higher priorities.

I guess people like us will never be good engineering hire. That's fine. Standing on the shoes of a startup founders, I probably wouldn't wanna hire someone who's not committed either.

I see no exit for this. I'm preparing to be fade out by the younger blood and eventually lose my engineering value.