I'm not going to pretend to know any answers here (especially since I don't know you) but I will offer some thoughts that may help you try to figure this out.
First of all, it's a part of life to have unpleasant tasks that we don't feel motivated to do. I think that will never change. What will change is how we approach these tasks.
Try this mental trick: avoid judgments. Simply see your day as a web of causes and effects. If I do X, Y will happen. If I don't do X, Y will not happen. Don't tell yourself "I need to do X." Give yourself permission to not do things if you are fine with the consequences.
Here's another thing to think about: saying "I want" is a fiction, because we are a complicated bundle of desires that sometimes conflict. We desire basic physical things like comfort as well as more complex things like a coherent and good sense of self. Get to know your desires. Why do you bite your fingernails? There is a kinesthetic side of you trying to express itself. Why do you want to avoid work? Perhaps there is a chance of failure so your ego's desire to protect itself is putting on the brakes. Or perhaps the work is simply boring and your inner child wants some adventure. The skill here is, after you get to know your inner desires, to learn how to harmonize them. It's like managing people: try to come to an outcome where everyone gets what they want, if possible. If you like the feeling of biting your fingernails but there's a part of you that doesn't like the habit, then you have an internal conflict. An unenlightened way to deal with this is to simply try to snuff out the habit (willpower to stop doing it). A better way is to find something else that's as kinesthetically pleasing and that you don't find objectionable. Same thing goes for programming: if a part of you wants to do that task and a part of you doesn't, listen to the opposing desires and try to harmonize them.
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I'm not going to pretend to know any answers here (especially since I don't know you) but I will offer some thoughts that may help you try to figure this out.
First of all, it's a part of life to have unpleasant tasks that we don't feel motivated to do. I think that will never change. What will change is how we approach these tasks.
Try this mental trick: avoid judgments. Simply see your day as a web of causes and effects. If I do X, Y will happen. If I don't do X, Y will not happen. Don't tell yourself "I need to do X." Give yourself permission to not do things if you are fine with the consequences.
Here's another thing to think about: saying "I want" is a fiction, because we are a complicated bundle of desires that sometimes conflict. We desire basic physical things like comfort as well as more complex things like a coherent and good sense of self. Get to know your desires. Why do you bite your fingernails? There is a kinesthetic side of you trying to express itself. Why do you want to avoid work? Perhaps there is a chance of failure so your ego's desire to protect itself is putting on the brakes. Or perhaps the work is simply boring and your inner child wants some adventure. The skill here is, after you get to know your inner desires, to learn how to harmonize them. It's like managing people: try to come to an outcome where everyone gets what they want, if possible. If you like the feeling of biting your fingernails but there's a part of you that doesn't like the habit, then you have an internal conflict. An unenlightened way to deal with this is to simply try to snuff out the habit (willpower to stop doing it). A better way is to find something else that's as kinesthetically pleasing and that you don't find objectionable. Same thing goes for programming: if a part of you wants to do that task and a part of you doesn't, listen to the opposing desires and try to harmonize them.