Personally, acting against my "better judgment" almost always results from a failure of emotional regulation. The only way I've found to reliably solve this problem has been to develop awareness of the emotional issues underlying ill-considered reactions, and develop the capacity to peacefully experience those emotions without a behavioral reaction. Technical solutions like leechblock and organizational solutions like strict scheduling can temporarily mask the problem, but they don't last, because I experience them as a form of fighting with myself, and when I fight with myself, I always lose.
> Personally, acting against my "better judgment" almost always results from a failure of emotional regulation. The only way I've found to reliably solve this problem has been to develop awareness of the emotional issues underlying ill-considered reactions, and develop the capacity to peacefully experience those emotions without a behavioral reaction.
Would you care to elaborate on this? Seems like quite valuable stuff you're doing.
It is incredibly valuable, but it is also slow and often quite painful.
My approach has been through Buddhist meditation, but any practice which fosters emotional awareness and resilience could help in the same way.
The practices described in the podcasts linked below are a concrete example of what I'm talking about. (But my own meditation practice goes in a different direction.)
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Personally, acting against my "better judgment" almost always results from a failure of emotional regulation. The only way I've found to reliably solve this problem has been to develop awareness of the emotional issues underlying ill-considered reactions, and develop the capacity to peacefully experience those emotions without a behavioral reaction. Technical solutions like leechblock and organizational solutions like strict scheduling can temporarily mask the problem, but they don't last, because I experience them as a form of fighting with myself, and when I fight with myself, I always lose.
> Personally, acting against my "better judgment" almost always results from a failure of emotional regulation. The only way I've found to reliably solve this problem has been to develop awareness of the emotional issues underlying ill-considered reactions, and develop the capacity to peacefully experience those emotions without a behavioral reaction.
Would you care to elaborate on this? Seems like quite valuable stuff you're doing.
It is incredibly valuable, but it is also slow and often quite painful.
My approach has been through Buddhist meditation, but any practice which fosters emotional awareness and resilience could help in the same way.
The practices described in the podcasts linked below are a concrete example of what I'm talking about. (But my own meditation practice goes in a different direction.)
http://www.unfetteredmind.com/audio/podretreat.php?code=RER#...