Great post. What I find most striking is how does one's (future) wife just "came along" when spending most time at home building open source projects. I mean, I rarely code any more for fun after work (and to be honest, often during work), I am actively looking for someone to get together and let me tell you, it's a bitch. Granted, I'm only searching online but then again I'm not looking for marriage material necessarily; even a semi-casual affair that would last more than a few weeks or months would be an improvement but it remains an elusive goal.
Looking online is your problem. Sure, donatj met his wife on Ok Cupid, but online dating is mostly luck. I have girl friends with an account... they get tens of messages a day, if not more. Even if you do everything right, you can get lost in the inbox (kinda like applying for jobs!).
Online dating works as an "extra" way to find someone, not your sole source. Despite all the talk about online culture, most couples of any kind (serious, affair, etc) meet in person.
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Great post. What I find most striking is how does one's (future) wife just "came along" when spending most time at home building open source projects. I mean, I rarely code any more for fun after work (and to be honest, often during work), I am actively looking for someone to get together and let me tell you, it's a bitch. Granted, I'm only searching online but then again I'm not looking for marriage material necessarily; even a semi-casual affair that would last more than a few weeks or months would be an improvement but it remains an elusive goal.
Looking online is your problem. Sure, donatj met his wife on Ok Cupid, but online dating is mostly luck. I have girl friends with an account... they get tens of messages a day, if not more. Even if you do everything right, you can get lost in the inbox (kinda like applying for jobs!).
Online dating works as an "extra" way to find someone, not your sole source. Despite all the talk about online culture, most couples of any kind (serious, affair, etc) meet in person.
Usually people get banned for mentioning this, but google for Reddit RedPill.
That's a toxic place full of butthurt loosers many of whom seem to hate women. At least the seduction reddit is a bit more light hearted.