Criticism should always be specific. (And should suggest a way to re-mediate the issue)
No: "You look fat", "You suck at maths", "RTFM"
Yes: "That dress is wrong for your body. It makes you look fat. Try this one", "You need to work on your fractions more - here; I'll help", "Rather than asking it here, this manual over here (link) answers your questions. Try chapter 5"
// I forgot to add a reason. Truth is important. I'm much harsher on those that I love than strangers - the reason is that hearing any truth gives you an opportunity to grow. I never lie to my wife / close friends because I care about them, and not just about their feelings. I'd rather hurt their feelings in the short term, than damage them in the long term.
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So, if a girl asks you if she looks pretty, and you think she doesn't, what do you tell her?
If it is your loved one asking then tell her why you love her.
You haven't ever tried this, have you?
Criticism should always be specific. (And should suggest a way to re-mediate the issue)
No: "You look fat", "You suck at maths", "RTFM"
Yes: "That dress is wrong for your body. It makes you look fat. Try this one", "You need to work on your fractions more - here; I'll help", "Rather than asking it here, this manual over here (link) answers your questions. Try chapter 5"
// I forgot to add a reason. Truth is important. I'm much harsher on those that I love than strangers - the reason is that hearing any truth gives you an opportunity to grow. I never lie to my wife / close friends because I care about them, and not just about their feelings. I'd rather hurt their feelings in the short term, than damage them in the long term.
The truth