Different people have very different expectations of the world. For example, what does it mean to interact with other people like a mature adult? To some, this means being respectful and expecting the same in return. To others, this means "sacking up" or "putting on your big-girl panties" and welcoming as much abuse and invective as anyone can dish out. So it doesn't seem unreasonable to me for a community to take stance on basic things like that, even if it seems obvious to those of us who already agree with the stance they're taking.
I agree, but I think the basic stance doesn't need to be more than "Be respectful and if someone isn't, talk to them about it before bringing it up with the community". Mismatches in what people think respectful means will happen, but I suspect it's impossible to write a COC that eliminates this problem.
It seems better to allow people to say what they want (with the assumption that it's reasonable and respectful) and provide a path for conflict resolution than to try to codify exactly what "respectful and reasonable" means. Both because that's different for every community, and any strict set of rules is ripe for rules lawyering/abuse.
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Different people have very different expectations of the world. For example, what does it mean to interact with other people like a mature adult? To some, this means being respectful and expecting the same in return. To others, this means "sacking up" or "putting on your big-girl panties" and welcoming as much abuse and invective as anyone can dish out. So it doesn't seem unreasonable to me for a community to take stance on basic things like that, even if it seems obvious to those of us who already agree with the stance they're taking.
I agree, but I think the basic stance doesn't need to be more than "Be respectful and if someone isn't, talk to them about it before bringing it up with the community". Mismatches in what people think respectful means will happen, but I suspect it's impossible to write a COC that eliminates this problem.
It seems better to allow people to say what they want (with the assumption that it's reasonable and respectful) and provide a path for conflict resolution than to try to codify exactly what "respectful and reasonable" means. Both because that's different for every community, and any strict set of rules is ripe for rules lawyering/abuse.