Aren't dating expectations always contradictory for both genders, by definition? If they were not, human race was to become very homogenous with almost no variety (because everyone will start having kids with "just evidently the best" partners), and that's a path to extinction. Most complex species instinctively self-protect against that.
Aren't dating expectations always contradictory for both genders, by definition?
Are they? All people tend to want the same things. We want to be seen, understood, appreciated, affirmed, trusted. We want to feel safe, be valued, connect to others and be happy.
What I want in a date is to help the other person achieve some of those things. What better thing is there?
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Aren't dating expectations always contradictory for both genders, by definition? If they were not, human race was to become very homogenous with almost no variety (because everyone will start having kids with "just evidently the best" partners), and that's a path to extinction. Most complex species instinctively self-protect against that.
Are they? All people tend to want the same things. We want to be seen, understood, appreciated, affirmed, trusted. We want to feel safe, be valued, connect to others and be happy.
What I want in a date is to help the other person achieve some of those things. What better thing is there?
Only way to win this game, is not to play.